This past weekend we enjoyed some holiday music; I introduced T.B.M. to The Chipmunk Christmas album, and assembled our Christmas tree! T.B.M. had a blast with it this year, the older they get the more they enjoy our traditions (like picking out a new ornament each year) and decorating our tree. While putting our ornaments on the tree General Disarray noticed some tassels in the bag. When I graduated high school I received an additional set of cap tassels. I wasn’t really sure what to do with the tassels and one Christmas decided to just toss them on our tree. Since then, each year, I toss them on the tree. This year General Disarray got a hold of them before I could and he was perplexed by them.

He inquired about them and I told him they go on a graduation cap and I received those when I finished high school. He seemed ok with that answer, commented that it wasn’t an ornament, and tossed it back in the bag. He grabbed a “real” ornament and came over to the side of the tree where I was hanging stuff and quietly asked “Will I graduate high school”. I told him that I had planned on him graduating from our homeschool. He said “Ok” and then paused, thought about what I had said, and then said: “You didn’t work with your parents?...You didn’t do school at home?” I told him that I wasn’t homeschooled, I had to attend public school (he had assumed that my high school was a homeschool). After telling him that he placed the ornament on the tree, looked at me and said “I’m sorry you weren’t homeschooled mom”.

As he walked away to grab another ornament I couldn’t help but smile a little. I often worry if I’m ruining their lives. There are enough negative voices out there to plague any homeschooling parent with plenty of doubt in their choice-a choice many of us have thought long and hard about-. Then in one brief moment my son assured me that yes, we have made the right choice. He felt sorry for me, sorry I couldn’t spend the day getting to know my parents, I couldn’t enjoy my sibling the way he does. I couldn’t enjoy my dad’s weekdays off or days when his work schedule allowed him to actually be home (and awake) during the day. The very things I use to explain why we homeschool to other people my own children see as positives, and in that one moment General Disarray taught me that his and his brother’s opinions were the only ones that should matter.

They are happy at home. And it’s about time I stopped worrying about what they may be missing and enjoy what we aren’t missing, time with each other.

Copyright(c)2011 Rayven Holmes


  1. Argh. Comment eating monster got my first try. Abbreviated version: I worry, but my kids also assure me that they enjoy being home. And we too enjoy the quality family time we've had together over the years.

  1. Yay! What a sweet story! I worry sometimes, too...but then I see how much happier they are now. What could be more important than that?

  1. What you call General Disarray, I call Total Sweetness.

  1. Awwwww!!! how sweet :) It's those little moments that make your heart melt and you relise you are doing a good job!
    I love that I get to spend so much time as a family with my children too <3

    Happy Holidays from web-schooling family of four who geek out learning with web-based curricula, multimedia electives, and an online writing tutor!

  1. Really nice to begin my day with a lovely affirmation of our homeschooling lifestyle, thanks!
    How has it been, homeschooling in Japan? We always have the thought at the back, of our mind; going to another country again, so I will read your entire blog and maybe hear from you at ours one of these days for an answer!

  1. Beautifully expressed and a reassurance that we are doing the right thing homeschooling.

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